7 Valentine's Day Secrets for More Love...
As you've probably noticed, we are all being bombarded with messages like don't forget the flowers, boxes of candy, and of course, the chocolate diamonds because Valentine's day is
tomorrow.
Valentine's day can bring up a myriad of emotions which can either bring couples closer for a short period of time or create feelings of loneliness and separation for other couples or singles.
So how can you deal with a holiday like this and actually enjoy yourself, whether you are in a "relationship" or not?
Here are 7 secrets to filling your relationships with more love--no matter what day it is from our "Red Hot Love Relationships" program...
1) Don't Forget Kindness and Thoughtfulness
We all get in a rush sometimes and forget to be kind. We just want to get the things done that we have to get done and move along to the next thing to be done. Whether you are currently in an intimate relationship or not--take a moment to be kind to the people in your life.
Kindness certainly doesn't have to mean "doing" for someone (but it can.) It can mean just giving a smile, sending a kind, loving thought, or simply listening to a story that you may have heard many times before.
2) Don't Forget Appreciation
So often we find ourselves dwelling on what irritates us about the people in our lives and we forget to appreciate the things about our relationships that are working. Appreciation only works when you want nothing in return.
If there are "strings" along with your appreciation of another person, (like you want appreciation in return) it will seem like an empty, needy gesture. Appreciation has to be expressed from your heart and in such a way that is genuine.
3) Listen Closely to What Your Partner Wants
Whether it's to make plans for a Valentine's day celebration or just listening to how your partner's day went--leave your ego and your desire to help or "fix it" for him or her at the door and just listen. We all get into habits that stifle communication--that shut off a true connection of the heart.
To open up and bring more joy and ease into your relationship, take a moment to realize what you do to assume, to fix or to judge (even though you may not think you are doing those things) and just listen to understand your partner.
4) Listen Closely to What You Want
Listening closely to what you want can be even harder than learning to listen to your partner. So many people have learned along the way that it's not safe to feel emotions--and they simply don't know how to listen to what they want.
You have to practice listening to the "real" voice inside you (not the one that finds fault with you and others) so that you can be honest and authentic with the people in your life. Learn who you are and honor that by letting others know who the real "you" is.
5) Don't Forget Discernment
The media likes to use hype and if you buy into what the mass media promotes as "the way" Valentine's day should be, then you might be setting yourself up for disappointment after the big day comes and goes.
Remember, it's not about the money you spend or where you bought that special diamond necklace or ring.
It's about the love that's underneath all of that.
6) Don't Forget to Be Present and Be Real
If you're like most people, you're usually either mentally thinking about what you have to do or are going to do in the future or thinking about what happened to you in the past.
The present moments fly by without you really participating in them. To be present and real means to be fully focusing on what's going on right here and right now.
Great relationships are built on that idea and whether it's Valentine's day or not, it's a terrific practice to get into.
7) Don't Forget to Think Long-Term Love and Not Just Short-Term "Wow"
Whether it's a dating situation or long-term committed relationship or marriage, when you are thinking about a celebration of your love or of your relationship, keep in mind what would create and help foster continued long-term love instead of going for the "wow" factor.
To know the difference, you have to be in tune with how you and your partner like to celebrate--and everyone's different so you have to pay attention and listen.
Whether you're with a special someone or not this Valentine's Day, be an example of love and not just this day but every day.
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