4 Tips When You're Caught in a "Not-So-You" Embarrassing Love Moment
Ever said or done something that turned into a "not-so-you" embarrassing love moment?
We ALL have (and yes we're raising our hands here too)...
So, what exactly are we talking about when we use the terms "embarrassing" or "not-so-you" love moments?
It's a moment where you might normally be kind and loving but you say or do something that certainly doesn't come off that way...
It could be that you were harsh or critical about someone you love behind their back, they find out about it and then because you value your love (or friendship), you've got some explaining to do...
If you're a woman, it might be the way you say NO to his desires to have some fun in the bedroom when you might ordinarily say YES...
If you're a man, it could be a sudden "performance issue" in the bedroom...
It could be agreeing to do something you didn't really want to do (and getting upset about it later)...
You get the idea...
An embarrassing or "not-so-you" love moment could be anything where you're simply not acting or reacting in a way that would be the most loving, kind or connecting way or not the way things would normally be for you.
So, what do you do in moments like these to bring some sanity to situation that could lead to an even bigger mess or require some even fancier dancing to get out of?
Here are some very simple love ideas that we think you'll find helpful in many situations...
And while we're thinking about it--the tragedy for many women and men who come to us for our one-on-one "Relationship Reverse" love coaching by telephone and skype is that the sometimes VERY difficult situations they
find themselves in could have (in many cases) been avoided if they had done some of the things we're about to share with you earlier...
So here are a few pointers about how to deal with situations like this...
1) Don't pretend it didn't happen
Sometimes it can seem like the best thing to do after an embarrassing moment or situation has happened is to pretend that it didn't happen and just try to put it behind you as quickly as possible.
Pretending something didn't happen when it did eventually becomes the big white elephant in the middle of the room.
Everybody knows it's still there (it's unavoidable) even if you're trying to hide from it.
2) Admit the truth
You know what they say when it comes to healing a problem...
The first step to healing something is to admit that it's a problem. It's the same thing when it comes to situations like what we're talking about here. Admitting your part in the situation or even be willing to admit that "it" happened is huge when it comes to solving any issue between you and someone else.
3) Don't make it bigger than it is
Sometimes you make things WAY bigger than they have to be and one of the big reasons that this happens is because you continue to pour your energy into a situation when it may not be nearly as big of a deal if you took your focus on it down a few notches.
As we said a moment ago--don't pretend this situation didn't happen but don't focus on it forever either.
and finally...
This is beautiful...
4) Laugh about it now-- rather than later
Have you ever been in a situation where you said to yourself or someone else...
"One day I'll look back on this situation and laugh about it."
So, why not find the humor about the situation and laugh about it NOW instead of later? When you're able to do this, it can work wonders to transform hurtful or painful situations (especially in your own mind.)
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